I came across a link to a blog post recently titled something like “12 Things Your Daughter Needs To Hear You Say.” I was excited to read it, but the daughter of this mom is a teenager and their family values are different than ours. There was nothing on her list that I could imagine saying to my own daughter, especially at the ripe old age of 2.
So I made my own list. Here are 11 things I want my daughter to hear from me.
1. You can do this.
I read a post this week by a mom saying she wasn’t helping her child up the ladder at the playground because she wanted her to learn that she can overcome an obstacle without help.
I resonate with that so strongly (even if I still sometimes help Bean up the ladder). I want her to hear me say, “You can do this,” and know I mean, “I believe in you. And I will celebrate with you. But I’m not going to make it happen for you.”
2. I hear you.
I’m sure it feels to Bean that all I ever say to her is “No.”
“No, not right now.”
“Me help cook?”
“No, this is too hot.”
“Me no sleepy!”
“No, you cannot stay up any longer.”
Because we are in opposition so often, and especially on days when we’ve been in conflict a lot, I want her to know that I do hear her.…