“I’m tired, but I’m always tired. I just exist on coffee.”
“I don’t even remember the last time I got my hair cut. Thank goodness for messy buns!”
“I haven’t bought new underwear since before I got pregnant with my first!”
These are all things I’ve heard real women say. Every single one of them makes me cringe. Because humble bragging about NOT taking care of yourself is just wrong. It implies that you believe that person who falls down in exhaustion first wins.
I don’t want to win that competition. But let’s be honest. The phrase “self-care” is a trigger for many women.
It makes us feel selfish, guilty. It makes us feel inadequate, because whatever things we are doing for ourself feel woefully inadequate. As if caring for yourself doesn’t count if you can’t get completely away from your responsibilities. Self-care is only worthwhile if it is a pedicure, a long nap, a date night or an evening out with your girl friends. If you can’t be checked out entirely for a few hours, then it doesn’t count. Easy self-care isn’t good enough.