Archive | July, 2014

Are You A Good Mother?

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Are you a good mother? What do you believe makes a good mother? What if we all let go of the mythical Good Mother? :: www.nurturedmama.net
Recently, I read a really excellent book of essays called The Good Mother Myth.

In the introduction, the author tackles the idea of what we, as a culture, consider a Good Mother to be. These are the standards we have built up, based on our cultural expectations and media influences, of how a mother should behave with her children and in the world. It is behind the divide over working moms and stay at home moms. Our expectations for single mothers, non-custodial mothers and mothers in same-sex relationships. How we perceive helicopter parenting, Tiger Moms and that mom on her iPhone at the park – our acceptance or outrage is based in these deep-rooted Good Mother standards.

But that collective vision of a Good Mother is mythical. She simply isn’t real – she can’t be. She’s based on picking and choosing from many different sources of influence, and not an actual real person with feelings and emotions and struggles.…

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5 Essential Things To Take On Vacation

What's in your suitcase? Make sure you save room for these five essentials for your next vacation. :: www.nurturedmama.net

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Welcome to the July 2014 Carnival of Natural Parenting: Family Vacation

This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Hobo Mama and Code Name: Mama. This month participants shared their family-travel tips, challenges, and delights. This  post was chosen to be featured on the Natural Parents Network blog for the Carnival and was originally published there.

Please scroll to the end of this post to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.

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I just cleared my inbox of two weeks of old emails that contained a lot of links I thought I wanted to read. After the third vacation-related article that truly didn’t apply to my life, I deleted the rest of them. Then I made a list of the things a Nurtured Mama would take on vacation with her, which I realized was the article I was actually looking for and not finding.

So here you go. Five things you should put in your suitcase this summer:

A Flexible Attitude

A friend asked me recently if my partner and I travel well together. Because we were a few days away from leaving on a trip, I had to pause and think a bit.…

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Spicy Grapefruit Margaritas: Pinned it. Did it.

Pinned It. Did It. Spicy Grapefruit Margaritas recipe review :: nurtured mama.net

 

My dad has a very particular way of eating a grapefruit. First he rolls the fruit around on the counter “to loosen the juices”. Then he slices it in half, crossways, to reveal shiny little triangles of grapefruit flesh. Next, with a paring knife, he carefully goes around each segment, cutting it away from the skin and from the membrane on each side. Then he scoops out and eats the pieces with a spoon (when I was a kid, we used the tiny sugar spoon that came with the cutlery set my parents got for their wedding for this part. Dad scoffs at those specialized toothed grapefruit spoons.). Finally, he uses one hand to squeeze any remaining juice from the now-empty grapefruit hull into a spoon held into the other hand. You don’t want to waste anything when you are eating a grapefruit.

I always think of my dad when I eat a grapefruit and my whole life I have eaten grapefruits exactly this way, also.

Only in this case I’m not eating grapefruits by our particular family method. I’m making margaritas out of them. Margaritas also make me think of my dad, as they are his favorite cocktail. He makes a mean one.…

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