The pressure to create a perfect holiday is intense, especially for moms. You want to create all the magic, but the pressure of consumer-focused advertising make you feel like nothing you do is enough, even when you are exhausted from all you are already doing. You want a more simple holiday, but you are overwhelmed.
Let me tell you a secret that I have learned: You don’t have to exhaust yourself. You can have a simple holiday that doesn’t feel like you are missing anything. You can have more connection, more magic, more fun.
For many years, seeing the first signs of holiday decor (and doesn’t it seem like that happens earlier and earlier every year?) didn’t bring me any cheer.
It just made me grumpy. Twinkle lights gave me tummy jitters.
The truth is that holidays aren’t joyful for everyone. Lots of us are out there putting our best face on while sitting somewhere on the spectrum between uncomfortable and complete anguish.
I felt all the looming expectations – to be happy, to enjoy every minute of time with my family, to give and get the best gifts, to be invited to and enjoy all the parties…
I knew I couldn’t live up to those expectations.…