Be brave. By which I mean feel terrified and resolve to move forward anyway.
Cancel your to do list.
Call in every favor, but not all at once.
Expect that it will be worse than you think. Know you will get through it anyway.
Get used to the discomfort of other people doing things you feel like you should be able to do yourself, but actually can’t do yourself right now.
Give yourself permission to be righteously furious. And then give yourself permission to speak that fury out loud (but don’t aim it at your immediate family).
Let yourself off all the hooks.
Get acupuncture. Often.
Get used to crying.
Conserve your energy for the things that matter most. Don’t let anyone else make that list for you.
Resign yourself to the many pharmaceutical medications all lined up in their little orange bottles.
Use marijuana medically and also when you just need a break from feeling everything.
Say thank you often to your significant other, or parent, or child, or whoever is carrying the brunt of your care.
Be really specific about helps you and what doesn’t.
Remember that every cycle is going to be a little different.
Get on YouTube and learn to wear a scarf from fabulously stylish women who have not actually lost their hair but wear scarves beautifully anyway.…