The title of this post is the same title as an article that was in Oprah magazine last spring. These are not the same questions that were in the article.
The article was really good, but I was most struck by the very first question they listed: “Do I Examine My Life Enough?”
I’m a life-examiner. I journal. I’ve been seeing a therapist on a regular basis for many years. I talk through my experiences and reactions to things with my close friends. I write about my life here and elsewhere because it helps me to understand it.
I can easily say “Yes,” in answer to the first question in that article, but I have talked to many women who might answer “Maybe?” or “I don’t know how to do that,” or even, “Wow, that’s scary,” in response.
If you are one of those women, this list is for you. Here are 20 questions to ask yourself if you want to know yourself better. 20 questions to help you step back to examine your life and where you are in it. Don’t like the answers? Don’t have answers to some of them? That’s where your work lies.
I’m going to write more about each of these questions in the coming months, because they are big and juicy topics that I’d like to explore further. For now, pull out a journal and a piece of paper and see where your first answers to these questions takes you.
- What do I really want in this moment?
- How do I want to be loved?
- Who do I need to forgive?
- Am I in my body?
- Do I love myself exactly as I am right now?
- What can I let go of?
- What did I love to do when I was a child?
- What would I love to learn?
- What is my superpower?
- When was the last time I felt truly joyful?
- Who is my community?
- What is beautiful to me and do I have some of that in my life right now?
- Do I know the sound of my own true voice?
- What practice consistently brings me home to my self?
- What do I want my legacy to be?
- What have I done for myself today?
- What is my story?
- Have I planned for my own death, and my survivors?
- How can I speak with more love today?
- Can I ask a better question?
I’d love to hear from you. Which of these questions was most illuminating? Which made you most uncomfortable? Leave a comment below.